It’s Perfect!

Posted by on Mar 19, 2012 in Alyanna Dialogues, Daughter Dialogues, Everyday Life, Family, Fathers, Homemaking, Mothers, Organizing and Decluttering, Parenting, Personals, Random Inspirations, Relationships | 5 comments

Here’s another mother-daughter dialogue over lunch:

Alyanna:”Mom, why are you so quiet all of a sudden? Are thinking of how to fix our house?”

Me: “Hmm…not really, but yeah I’m also wondering about that, I guess…”

Alyanna: “But mom, you don’t have to! Our house is perfect!”

Me: “Oh, thank you! But when you say perfect, what do you mean? What makes you say that it’s perfect?”

Alyanna: “Well, because you’re special. So even when you’re just thinking about fixing, it’s already special. It’s already perfect to me. Does that make sense or you still don’t get it?” (She was so cute when she said this, so…feeling grown-up!!)

Me: “Hmm…Can you explain that some more please?”

Alyanna: “I said, diba you’re special to me? So that means whatever you think about, it’s special also. How you fix the house, it’s special to me na….so it’s perfect for me!”

This couldn’t have been a more timely reminder for me. As homemakers, we (or is it just me??) easily get caught up with trying to make the house look nice and neat, with the intention of providing our family with the best experience of “home”. I need to get all the countertops organized! I need to arrange this so it would fit perfectly and go with that! I need to fix this and work on that!

What Alyanna said struck me: our home is perfect, our home is special…because mom is special. She didn’t require for her room to have all the best stuff, nor her closet be filled with the nicest clothes, nor her shelves be lined with the most expensive toys. She didn’t mind the current mess that’s sitting in our hallway waiting to be moved before she could say that our house is perfect.

THIS….is “perfect”?!???

Our kids’ definition of perfection is different from how grown-ups would usually define it. Their perception of a perfect home is not based on how their house looks like, but about the people that make up their home— their family. In short, they would rather have me playing with them and sharing memories with them than me spending the entire time fixing our house or finding nice things to put in our house. They would rather have me and be with me.

Mom is special, and that’s what makes the home special!

And it doesn’t matter to them either that mom often make mistakes (in my case, a lot of them! hehe). To them, mom is perfect on the basis of her place in their hearts— because she is special. And as long as they are with mom (and dad of course), home is special….and perfect. :)

 

Whew! Thank God! No pressure na! :D

 


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We Are Family

Posted by on Apr 11, 2010 in Family | 0 comments

I absolutely LOVED every bit of this long weekend! :D

Friday, I got to spend quality time with my cousins and I got to devour my aunt’s SUPER delicious home-cooking once again (I’m not exaggerating, she’s one of the best!).

We grew up with this pool. :)

With my very lovely cousins

So I ask you, do we look alike??

The refugees

With my aunt and cousins

Saturday, we had a whole-day discipleship conference/ team building with some of our leaders from Victory Greenhills. About a hundred people participated….AND most of them came early! :) I can say it’s probably one of the best discipleship trainings I’ve ever been to— no bias whatsoever. O=)

Honored to be co-laboring with this bunch

Sunday, I had steak for lunch, our beautiful niece celebrated her first birthday, two of my cousins and my brother went to our church service (cousins went for the first time!), Dennis preached a powerful word, then had dinner and dessert with some of our closest friends.

Like I said, I loved every bit of this weekend!

There’s something about family that recharges and refreshes people. When I say family, I am referring to both the families that we’re born into, and our spiritual family. In a family, we can be ourselves and know that we are accepted and loved. We know each other and appreciate each person’s uniqueness. In a family, we help each other and build each other up. We serve one another out of love. In a family, we trust each other. We can make ourselves vulnerable. We believe in each other. In a family, we fight and we forgive, and we learn from one another. In a family, we celebrate life together. :)

I am so grateful that God, in His infinite wisdom, chose to design us in such a way that we would be needing families and genuine relationships. I would not like to live life any other way.


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