Posted by Thammie Sy on Oct 3, 2013 in Breastfeeding, Child Development, Child Training, Discipline, Events, Family Health, Fitness, Mothers, Parenting, Reviews, Tips and Principles, Wellness | 0 comments
With the desire to help make feeding a pleasant experience for moms and their babies alike, Philips Avent continues to improve their products by partnering with those who understand a mother and child’s needs best— mommies and their children, of course!
Last week, Philips Avent held a very informative session for its Trusted Moms. I would gladly share my notes with you here, as I know you, too, would appreciate the things that were discussed about developing healthy eating habits in our children.
Most of my notes are from the presentation given by Miss Ruby Frane, a licensed nutritionist.
Before anything else, here’s a tidbit that I hope would encourage you to really go for breastfeeding:
Exclusive breastfeeding decreases the odds of preference for specific food preparation methods by 78%, food neophobia by 75%, and food rejection by 81%.
That was a side note. Okay, now let’s move on.
Here are parent characteristics that predispose our children to feeding difficulties. As you read through the bullet points, try to assess yourself. Do you have any of the following characteristics?
- Over-active or too stimulating
- Under-active or not engaging
- Chaotic or disorganized
- Rigid or over-controlling
- Over-concerned about child’s food selection or weight
- Has a particular agenda for growth
Let us expound on this.
Here are four parenting styles in the context of feeding. It is important for us to honestly evaluate our feeding style, for it greatly determines our children’s responses and eating behaviors.
- Try to control your child’s eating?
- Pressure your child to eat?
- Bribe your child to eat with rewards?
- Ignore your child’s hunger signals?
If we try to control our children and their eating habits too much, they would most likely adjust calories poorly, eat fewer vegetables and fruits, and have more chances of being underweight or overweight.
- Give up your feeding responsibilities?
- Set no limits?
- Ignore your child’s hunger signals or emotional and physical needs?
Negligence could increase our children’s chances of being overweight.
- Set no limits?
- Feed your child whatever he wants, whenever he wants, wherever he wants?
- Make special dishes for your child just because he refuses what is already on the table?
- Ignore your child’s hunger signals?
Failing to set limits for our children increases their chances of being overweight, and increases the likelihood that our children would eat diets lower in nutritional value except for fat.
- Guide your child’s eating?
- Set limits with the 3 W’s— what, when, and where he eats?
- Model eating and talk about food in a positive way?
- Respond to your child’s hunger signals?
As we learn to respond better to our children’s nutritional needs, they are more likely to eat more fruit, vegetable, and dairy products, and eat less junk. In effect, we protect them from becoming overweight or undernourished.
There you have it– the four feeding styles. Honestly now, which one do you practice?
Of course, we all want to become more and more responsive to our children– and not just in the area of feeding. For most of us, it is really the lack of proper knowledge that keeps us from practicing the right style. It is never too late to improve (or change) though, so take heart.
If you are currently encountering some feeding difficulties with your child, do read on….
Feeding difficulty case number one: “My child is so picky!”
Here are some things that you could do:
- Offer only foods that your child accepts without protest.
- Eat new foods in the presence of your child without offering any; provide a taste at your child’s request and stay neutral about his/her reaction to the food.
- Avoid confict and prevent your child from becoming anxious by making your child’s limited diet a non-issue.
Here are things that you should NOT do:
- If a food causes your child to spit it out, gag, or vomit, do not offer this food again, but continue with preferred foods.
- Do not force your child to eat refused foods by keeping him/her at the table until finished, and do not punish him/her for not eating certain foods.
Feeding difficulty case number one: ”My child has really poor appetite, often apathetic and/or withdrawn.”
Please consider the following steps:
- Investigate and observe the relationship between the child and the caregiver. The child will respond to a warm, caring, and experienced feeder.
- Identify and address the factors that may be contributing to your child’s behavior.
- If malnutrition is evident, use oral nutritional supplements as advised by your doctor.
Please do NOT ignore this kind of behavior.
Finally, here are some basic feeding guidelines:
1. Maintain appropriate parent-child boundaries. This means that YOU decide WHAT, WHEN, and WHERE your child eats.Your child determines how much is eaten.
2. Avoid distractions during mealtime. (A personal guideline for us is no gadgets– TV, phones, tablets/ipads during mealtime)
3. Feed to encourage your child’s appetite. Avoid giving juice, milk, or junk food between meals.
4. Adopt a neutral attitude towards eating.
5. Limit mealtime duration. Feeding should last not longer than 30-35 minutes.
This is a guideline. In our home, I find that a normal duration for us is about an hour. I have two little girls…does that explain anything? (In case you still don’t get it, here’s a clue: yakety-yak, blah-blah-blah, chat-chat-chat, talk-talk-talk!)
6. Serve age-appropriate foods. A reasonable serving would be the approximate size of your child’s fist.
7. Systematically introduce novel foods into your child’s diet.
8. Encourage independent feeding.
9. Tolerate age-appropriate mess.
…And because I am one who feels it is easier to remember things if they are in multiples of five (or three’s!), let me add a another one to make it ten.
Mealtimes can be one of the best bonding experiences for you and your child. It is up to you to make it as such.
I love these feeding products from Philips Avent!
My favorite features here: This spoon bends–making it easier for our young kids, and this lunch box has a suction underneath (in addition to its air-tight cover and “yehey-it’s-already-included-here spoon”)– making it easier for us!
We had our session at the newly-reinvented Spaces at Babyland (along Shaw Blvd.).
Spaces at Babyland has a play area for the kids.
Wow….Thank you for staying with me up until this point!
To know more about Philips Avent and their products, go to www.facebook.com/PhilipsAventPH and follow them on Twitter @PhilipsAventPH.
If you are looking for a venue to hold an intimate party or seminar with kids in mind, check out Spaces at Babyland. Their address is 548 Facilities Center, Shaw Blvd., 1500 Mandaluyong City. Check out www.facebook.com/babylandstore.
Hello mom-friends! Take a look at Corelle’s newest collection coming out this month!
Gaaah!!! So cute!!
I grew up using Corelle, and I really am a believer of their products! I have not yet tried any brand that equals their quality. In fact, I went to visit my sister-in-law a few weeks back and was very pleased to see her serving us dinner using the Corelle set my mom passed on to me when I came to Manila for college (which we’ve used since I was a kid), and which I later used during the first year of our marriage. (In case you were wondering, I gave them away since I got new Corelle sets as wedding gifts.) That was a senti moment for me.
Imagine…these are more than a decade old. Much, much more! Really worth it!
Anyway…..how I wish I could have these new designs— more modern….with really nice colors…..*sigh*….
Posted by Thammie Sy on Sep 17, 2013 in Child Development, Child Training, Discipline, Everyday Life, Faith, Family, Fathers, Homemaking, Homeschooling, Marriage, Mentoring Women, Mothers, Parenting, Personals, Random Inspirations, Relationships, Tips and Principles | 2 comments
Here’s a story for you today:
A fisherman lying on the bank of a river was having a great time. He would cast his line into the gently moving water, and every now and then he caught some fish . He had his lunch and drink by his side as he sat in the shade of a tree. His stringer was getting heavy with the weight of the fish.
He was bringing in another large fish when a well-dressed businessman drove up and came over to him. “Don’t you know that you could catch many more fish if you would put several lines in the water?” he asked.
The fisherman replied, “Why would I want more fish?”
“Well, look, it’s simple,” the businessman said. “If you had more lines, you’d catch more fish and make more money. And then if you made more money, you could buy a fishing boat. Once you had that, you could open up a store and sell your fish to more people. After you open one store, you could then open more. You’d employ more people, and eventually you could become a fish wholesaler and ship fish all over the country. And then you would become very wealthy.”
The fisherman took a bite of his sandwich but looked skeptically at the businessman. “And then what would I do?” he asked.
“Well, if you’ve become that successful, you’ have all the time you wanted to do what you enjoy most. You could lie back, relax, and go fishing.”
The fisherman smiled and said, “But that’s what I’m doing right now.”
Right now— today— are we living life the way we know we want life to be, or driven by the pursuit of a life that we wish to live?
Right now— today— are we really living?
As we go about our work, may we always be able to tell the difference between trying to make a living and actually living. As we go about interacting with our spouses and children, may we always be able to tell the difference between trying to make a life and being able to give life.
I pray that we will be wives and mothers who are so full of life, that we cannot help but bring life to all that surround us.
What type of rice does your family eat?
If you’re like me and so many of my friends, you’ve probably tried buying brown rice for your family—only to end up being the only one in the family eating it (well, you and your husband at least). Your kids probably prefer the softer texture and the “cleaner” color of white rice. You also probably still wish to go the healthier route and to feed your family well, but have somewhat given in to the convenience of seeing your kids empty their plates faster and with less prompting.
Once upon a time, this was the case for our family. But for some reason I am not sure of but am very grateful for, this has changed. Nowadays, the kids have taken a liking to brown rice, and I don’t think they still mind the texture and color. Sometimes, they can’t even tell the difference, especially if I cook the rice in with some vegetables.
Here’s a very simple dish we whipped up earlier, which the kids enjoyed (including our eight-month old!).
Saute garlic, onions, carrots, and zucchini in a tablespoon of coconut oil.
Add the cooked brown rice.
Season with Himalayan salt (and maybe pepper if your kids don’t mind it).
* This is all I put in due to a lack of stuff in my fridge! haha!
It would be great to add in the following options, too:
- baguio beans
- chopped up pieces of meat/chicken/seafood
….basically anything, actually!
A FEW THINGS TO REMEMBER IN COOKING BROWN RICE:
* Soak the rice in water for about 30 minutes before cooking!
* Follow a 2:1 water to rice ratio.
If you are not yet that convinced to try brown rice, here are some facts for you. Hopefully, these facts will encourage you to make that switch.
- Brown rice is good for you.
Brown rice is rich in B vitamins and minerals, and contains high phytic acid that is a strong anti-oxidant and has anti-cancer properties. It is rich in dietary fiber and does not convert to sugar as fast, and so it is good even for diabetics. Brown rice is high in protein and fatty acids, making it a good energy source and helpful in lowering cholesterol and preventing cardio-vascular diseases.
- Brown rice is good for Filipino families.
Many Filipinos suffer from what is called “hidden hunger”. Those who can afford it consume so much rice, but most of what they eat are void of essential nutrients.
Those who fall below the poverty line, however, are all the more deprived of the proper nutrition since they end up depending solely on rice to fill their empty stomachs. Eating brown rice ensures that members of our family get the best nutrition out of every meal, and helps prevent this hidden hunger.
- Brown rice is good for the community.
I hear a lot of people say that they settle for white rice because it is a lot cheaper. What most of us have to realize is that the more brown rice we consume, the cheaper they become. It’s the basic law of supply and demand.
- Brown rice is good for the environment.
Brown rice is only milled once. This significantly cuts down the burning of fuel and reduces carbon emission into the atmosphere.
The organic means of producing brown rice also aids in eliminating the use of pesticides and insecticides.
- Brown rice is good for the farmers.
Because the production of brown rice itself is cheap, farmers can save up on fuel and could invest more in seedling and other agricultural resources.
- Brown rice is good for the country.
Making brown rice a regular staple can also aid in solving the over importation of white rice. The milling recovery of brown rice is 10% higher, which can lead to additional sacks of rice that can be leveled with the amount of rice the country imports. This means we could have the capability to produce enough rice, eliminating the need to import from other countries.
Posted by Thammie Sy on Aug 19, 2013 in Child Training, Discipline, Everyday Life, Faith, Family, Fathers, Homeschooling, Household Help and Nannies, Household Tips, Marriage, Mentoring Women, Mothers, Parenting, Personals, Random Inspirations, Relationships, Tips and Principles | 2 comments
I have a dilemma.
I want— really, really want — to be able to just write and post blogs everyday.
I also wish I could tell you that I just can’t, but the truth is, I actually can. If I just rearranged my time, I’m pretty sure I can squeeze in more time to write.
But of course, this would also mean taking time away from other activities. This would mean taking time away from activities that I share with my family. This would mean taking time away from activities that I do to build my relationships.
And this, I do not wish to do.
Recently, I’ve had to make choices that force me to choose not just between activities, but what these activities represent. For each one that I say yes to, I am saying no to another. For every activity I choose to do, I am deciding to prioritize what that activity represents over the others. Before long, my series of choices would reveal my true priorities. (I say true, because we all know we usually have a list in mind of what our priorities should be…but in actuality…well, sometimes our calendars tell a different story.)
Let me go back to the whole point of why I am writing this.
As I said, I really want to write more often. But I have also resolved earlier on that I am first a wife and a mother before I am a blogger.
Oh, how easy it is for me to feel guilty about the things that I do NOT get to do because of certain things that I also need to attend to. Very easy, I tell you.
I find that if my priorities are not clear to me, I can go the route of saying yes to everything that comes my way as long as there’s space in my calendar….and end up so exhausted yet unfulfilled. OR, I can go the route of feeling extremely guilty for being unable to say yes to all other things I wish to say yes to.
Can you relate with me??
Are there things in your life that you so wish you could do more often, and devote more time to, but you just know that you can’t—even though technically, you can?? (Or am I confusing you? hehe)
I think all I’m trying to say is, it is good to go back and reassess your calendars every so often. It is good to be so clear as to what your priorities are. Us moms have so many roles to fulfill that it sometimes– I mean, oftentimes– gets overwhelming.
We need to resolve early on what are worth fighting for, and what we could let go of for any given season of our lives.
I am first a follower of Christ. From this flows everything else.
I am first a wife before I am a home manager.
I am first a mom before I am a homeschool teacher.
I am first a homemaker and a woman with a family and relationships to nurture before I am a blogger.
Fill in the blanks.
“I am first a ___________ before I am a ____________.”
Who knew that somewhere in San Juan, one would find a nice lifestyle spa that would serve to de-stress us moms??
Blanca de China is the recently-opened place-to-be for our regular dose of relaxation. I say this because one look at its interiors– with its all-white chinoiserie– and you are off to another land…. A land where kids do not make any mess; a land where kids pack away all their toys so none can be seen; a land where kids know how to take care of porcelain and all things delicate. A nice break, I might say, from the daily grind of homemaking and homeschooling duties.
When I first entered Blanca de China’s doors, my first thoughts were: “This is one of my dreams— to have a white-themed house that stays white and clean!”
Aside from relaxing interiors and ambience, I am very particular about….say it with me mom-friends…..BUDGET. As much as I want to be able to splurge and say “I deserve this break”, I am just not able to. Either I really do not have the budget for it, or if I do, I know I’d end up feeling guilty, wishing I’d spent the money on our kids’ or household’s needs.
And so, imagine how pleased I was when I saw Blanca de China’s list of services…and their prices.
Not bad at all, eh?
I’ve been planning to go back and date some of my girl-friends and the two kiddos there. I already tried their massage and threading services which were really excellent (first time for me to get my brows threaded, but it didn’t hurt!), but I also want to try their nail services next. Blanca de China boasts of being the first in the country to use dry heat sterilization technique, the same technique used by most dental practitioners all over the world. It is capable of inactivating all bacteria, AIDS, Hepatitis B and C, and other harmful micro organisms. I will let you know how it goes once I try their nail services, too!
With Joanne Magboo, the owner of Blanca de China Spa
A perfect ending to my massage– tea and cookies!
Do visit them! They are located at 259A Ibuna corner P. Guevarra Streets, San Juan City.
You may call these numbers for appointments and reservations:
Telephone: (02) 5428499
Mobile: (63) 9275299425
Blanca de China is open Mondays – Thursdays at 11:00 am to 10:00 pm, and Fridays – Sundays at 11:00 am to 11:00 pm.
Check out their Facebook Page for more details: www.facebook.com/BlancaDeChina