H-A-P-P-I-N-E-S-S in MarriagePosted by Thammie Sy on Oct 9, 2011 in Family, Fathers, Featured, Marriage, Mentoring Women, Mothers, Relationships | 2 comments
Found this post again among the files I managed to “salvage” back when my site’s host failed me. This one’s dated June 19, 2009, but I still think it serves as a good reminder for me.
We just came home from our good friends’ bridal shower and stag party (same house, different rooms for the men and women). I have to hand it to Steph’s (the soon-to-be bride) siblings…you all did a great job organizing it! The theme was anything kitchen, which I loved since all the prizes were useful. Had I known, I would have participated more than I have instead of just eating during the first few games!
** fast forward**
The last activity was for the married couples to give tips on “How to have a happy marriage”. This is what I came up with in the few minutes given to us:
H- Have a clear vision for your marriage. How do you want your marriage to look and be like?
A- Appreciate more than criticize. The latter is easier to do, but the former feels better and actually yields much more results.
P- Pray together. I acknowledge that apart from the grace of God and complete reliance on Him, I probably will be more prone to doing everything else contrary to what the Bible teaches us on having great marriages.
P- Pay attention to each other’s needs and desires. “Pay attention” being the key word here. “To Each other”, too.
I- Inspire your partner to dream big. You have the wonderful privilege of being your spouse’s number one fan; being the president of his/her fan club— with front row seats and VIP passes to all the great things that he/she will be doing!
….You also have the power to crush all those dreams— in which case, you both end up just watching from the bleachers.
N- Never stop trying out new things. Having a routine and having responsibilities don’t have to be boring. It’s really up to both of you.
E- Enjoy sex. (this one, ONLY when you’re ALREADY married!) ….No explanations needed.
S- Serve each other. You are in that marriage to serve and build up….not the other way around.
S- Savor every moment, even those that seem insignificant. Marriage is one exciting union! Every moment together is a blessing and is made to be a joy. Don’t just let those moments pass you by (parang Kodak lang yan…)
If any of you have other tips, feel free to write them! I love learning from all of you!
PS: Mika’s on her way to recovery. She’s starting to eat again! yipee! ...(**Aah….so Mika was sick last June 2009, eh? Well, she’s been one healthy little girl since last year! )
PPS: May I add? Can we change the spelling of “happiness” by adding one more -s at the end???
S- Say sorry. A lot of times, this is more powerful than the words “I love you”. :)