In about an hour i shall be unplugging myself from the internet to spend two days of bliss with my husband. No kids, no housework, no ministry work….just me and my best friend, hanging out and enjoying each other’s company. Thank you Carlo for the gift!

Ever since we got married, the one thing that Dennis would have to give me that would really hit the mark and make my day was time together. Okay, wait…I wasn’t being completely true to myself there….of course, food also makes the top of my list….but yes, still coupled with quality time with him. This is my primary love language (how I receive and give/show love) –TIME. It’s so hard to pull me away from people I love once I’m spending time with them. Of course, it is a given that in the current season I and my friends are in, it is quite a feat just to set a schedule when we could meet, but once we’re there…good luck to our husbands in their attempts to make us stop and go home.

Next to time comes TOUCH. Here is a request that Dennis has become accustomed to: “Love, hug please.” …. I know how hard it is for my husband (and men in general) to stop what they are doing and go over to the wifey just to give a hug. To men, unless that hug would lead to something else, it might not be worth all the effort. It’s all part of their wiring, I think…very result-oriented. But through time, Dennis has come to understand that it is ultimately for his own happiness that he forgo his natural inclination to want to finish whatever work he has to do right away and come give me at least a ten-second hug. As they say, happy wife=happy life.

Fortunately for me, Dennis happens to have the exact same love language that he responds well to–  time and touch. This makes it relatively easier to be consistent in our efforts to please each other and make each other feel loved….relative being the operative word here. Being consistent is not often associated with the word easy. Being consistent in how we treat our spouses especially after years of being together would require much effort, a lot of reminder, and even more grace. But our hope is that as we continually remind ourselves to speak our spouse’s love language, we reap the rewards of having a happy husband or wife….which would also translate to having a blissful life together.

Going back to our mini-getaway, don’t you think it’s about time you and hubby get some time off from the kids, too?

Go on! Book that hotel!! Get in that car!!

PS: I’m excited!

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