This morning is one of those mornings when I can close the door, lock it, turn on my worship playlist, sing, read my Bible, hear from my Father, get recharged— without rushing.
It’s the weekend. No lesson plans to carry out, no papers to check, no calling the kids to get ready and start moving.
Well, at least for this weekend.
I did all the checking and grading until midnight last night. As for the lesson plans to carry out, there’s nothing to carry out anymore because I have to start making a new one.
But let’s not ruin the moment.
This is a moment I have decided to carve out to recharge and nothing should get in the way.
What about you, friend? When was the last time you closed and locked the door to have time for yourself? When was the last time you basked in God’s presence and allowed Him to speak to you– really speak to you, and you just sat and listened, unhurried??
I believe as women and as moms with purpose, we cannot afford to run on empty. We cannot afford to run on yesterday’s fuel– or last month’s fumes. We need to be reminded– on a regular basis– of why we do what we do.
Have you figured that out yet? Why you do what you do?
Why does your schedule look the way it does? Why do you feel the need to accomplish certain tasks? Why do you expect your children to behave a certain way?
Aside from my Bible and journal, I added one “tool” today to help me reflect and recalibrate the past weekends– Mommy Mundo’s Mom Manifesto.
The past activities of the Mom Manifesto have been very helpful so far. So helpful (and easy to do, I might add) that I made a version for the kids to do as well. I’ve been wanting to do it for quite some time with them but somehow always put it off until recently. I decided it was a good idea for them to finally do the same activity that I was doing, which was to evaluate the way they lived their days and check whether their activities reflected what they valued and what their priorities are. I must say, it was an eye-opener for everyone. In the words of Alyanna, “Wow. I’m not really honoring God with my schedule mom. I’m wasting a lot of my time.”
I’m glad you see that now and you finally get what I’ve been trying to tell you, my dear. 😉
Moms, friends, if my nine and seven year-old girls can do it and benefit from it, I’m pretty sure you will, too.
Here’s the version I made for the kids. They actually requested that I print this out. I’ve had this pie chart on my files for quite some time now. I also made a table last year for them to track their days, but Mommy Mundo’s version was simpler (and shorter) so I decided to use that as a template for them instead. Alyanna saw that she spent more time doing crossword and sudoku puzzles than she did playing with her siblings, so she decided to lessen that time and make more time for them “because that’s better so we could improve and build our relationship.”
Another idea was to have them answer what they think I’d do in the parenting style quiz, just to compare my answers with theirs and see if my intentions and perception of myself coincide with their perception of me. I could have the best intentions, but if they perceive it in another way, then my intentions won’t really matter so much, would they? If that’s the case, I would need to check how I am coming across in the actual expression my love and concern for them.
The good news is, all our answers were the same! WHEW!
This weekend, may I encourage you to do the same? As I write this, I’m actually hearing some screams and cries from my toddler, but I recognize it as the “I’m mad at you because you’re not doing what I want you to do” kind of cry, not the “Help! I’m hurt!” kind. They’ll be fine. I’ll find out what happened as soon as I unlock my door, but not until I finish this. What I’m saying is, there will always be something “urgent” that will call for our attention. But I encourage you to decide that THIS is important:
We cannot give what we do not have. We cannot be a good resource if we do not draw from our ultimate Source. We cannot fill others if we haven’t been filled.
It’s the weekend.
For those of you are asking, here’s the link to the Mom Manifesto that I’m doing: http://expomom.com/mommanifesto/
I just realized tomorrow is Mother’s Day! What better time to reflect and “refill” than now??
Happy Mother’s Day!